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So you want to date a Tranny?
By far the most common question I get asked by e-mail is... "Will you go out on a date with me?". Of course it's not usually as eloquently phrased as that, nor is it just a date that most men are after (and let me say here and now that trying to impress a t*girl by stating the size of your manhood when first contacting them is NOT the way to win yourself a night out!)

obviously up for it
The owners of profile pictures such as this are clearly just after one thing!
Let me state for the record and make it quite clear that I'm not looking to date or meet anyone, other than to make new friends. Nonetheless, I thought I would put this a page together in order to try and explain what I think most trannies are looking for in a 'date' and hopefully (unless my view of what girls who do date guys are after is so different from that of other t*girls) provide some insight into the way us 'girlz' think on these matters. I should add that there are some trannies who really do just want casual sex but it's usually clear from their advertisements, profile and pictures that that's the case...!

Many, many, t*girls labour under the misgiving that they are 'bisexual when dressed'. This is taken to mean that that they feel attracted to men when they have got their best frock and high heels on, but when they're wearing jeans and a t*shirt and watching the footie then the longing goes away. Now this is not to say that there's anything wrong, incorrect or false about such feelings, but such statements should give cause for thought - how can a person change their sexual inclination purely by donning a different set of clothes? If this is true, though, you are more likely to catch their attention if you make the effort to go out and meet them when they're feeling their girliest than when they're sat at home on their computer or in a chat room.

tranny for hireThat aside, how does an interested male (semi-affectionately known as an 'admirer' and disaffectionally referred to as 'TF' or 'tranny f*cker') actually get to meet and date a gorgeous, glamorous t*girl?

Let's remember that most t*girls are nervous of meeting anyone for the first time, whether, male, female or anywhere inbetween. This is totally natural. There are those in society who would take great pleasure in attacking anything that doesn't conform to their view of what is normal, and t*girls aren't normal - they're special! So the first thing that any man wishing to meet up with a t*girl needs to do is establish credibility and trust. They need to convince the girl concerned that they are genuine. If I had a pound for every time that a girl-friend had told me that they had been inappropriately propositioned whilst out and about, I wouldn't need to work at Trans-MISSION! Chatting and having something interesting to say (compliments are great but they have to be backed up by something more than just desire) are really important. Getting drunk and asking, "Do you come here often" - and believe me, this happens, a lot - are more likely to get you blacklisted (and a black eye) than get you to first, or any, base!

shemale escort
Maybe an escort is more your thing?
So if you really do want to meet a transvestite or transsexual in the flesh, what should you do?
  1. Get ready for rejection - very few of the girls you will meet are actually looking for a 'boyfriend'. You will get turned away or put down many times. Some girls are better at this than others: some will give you a clear 'no', some will just shy away, and some (but few) may leave you with a slap on the cheek! Bounce back and try again but don't be a pest - eventually you'll find the girl of your dreams.
  2. Relax and be yourself - it doesn't matter what you look like, a relaxed, cheerful approach is more likely to pay dividends than a sweaty, nervous, stilted one.
  3. Be a Gentleman - talk to t*girls in the same way you would treat any female. Be courteous, generous and genuine and you'll find girls much more willing to respond in kind.
  4. Take your time - if it's 'Wham, Bam, thank-you Mam' that you're after, then you're unlikely to be successful except at certain kinds of events (think 'fetish clubs'). Getting to know a girl and building up trust is especially important with t*girls.
  5. Patience is a virtue - Actually, Patience was one of my 'maiden aunts'. But if you're e-mailing or calling a t*girl, don't expect an immediate response. Most girls can't necessarily, for one reason or another, check their e-mail as often as they like. Oh, and if you've managed to arrange to meet up with one, remember one important thing: trannies are always late!
  6. Don't dick around - what's in your trousers is much the same as what's up most t*girl's skirts and it's not something that most are interested in seeing (until the time is right). Don't try to impress by tails [sic] of your conquests unless it's Mount Everest you conquered.
  7. Be prepared to give and take - At the end of the day, a guy is just a t*girl who isn't in a dress. Whatever it is you're after, remember that the girl you're talking to might be after much the same.
To be honest, there are many girls out there whose total motivation for dressing is to get laid, but at a typical transvestite (or gay) club these are in the minority and it's not obvious which fall into which category. If you really don't think that you can cope with being nice and just want to get your end away then just open your wallet and pay... there are hundreds of transvestite escorts who are ready and willing to ensure that your every desire is met!

If you actually want to meet a t*girl, the best places to go are specialist tranny clubs such as Trans-MISSION and the Way Out Club. When these events are in full swing, there will be upwards of 150 transvestites, transsexuals, cross-dressers and any other moniker you choose to use in one place. Remember, not all these girls will be looking for a date, but if you want to practise your tranny chat-up lines, these are the busiest places to look. Beyond this there are smaller, local, get togethers. The Trans-MISSION tranny links pages have links to many such local events, though many are only meant for t*girls and their partners and would not necessarily welcome single males. Perhaps best to contact the organisers first.

If you manage to convince a t*girl to meet you for a drink, to get to know them, gay bars or pubs are good places to try as you won't raise any eyebrows being there, and there's usually one such place in most towns (in fact they are often the self same places where the local 'tranny socials' are held). Other common meeting places include the bars of hotels. Depending on the hotel, this may take more bravery from the t*girl concerned as not only does she have to cope with the nervousness of meeting you, but she also has to cope with whoever else may be in the bar. The upside of hotels is that in many cases the 'girl' can book a room to use for getting changed which can simplify travel arrangements. What else she might use the room for depends on how well you get on with her!

If you are one of those insatiable people who just can't wait to get their hands on a tranny, then there are loads of dating sites around. Remember that the descriptions (and sometimes the pictures) don't always match reality. But if you want to chat to someone tonight, then check out one of the girls below...!

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